If you're going through a divorce as a parent, you should aim to reduce conflict as much as you can. At least attempt to be civil with your ex as you sort things out.

This may not feel fair. Maybe they were unfaithful to the marriage, and you feel like your outrage is justified. But it is best for the children.

The problem is that a high-conflict divorce can be very hard on them. It's stressful. It takes a long time. Some parents use their kids as pawns. All of this makes it harder for children to adjust, and it can make them feel like the divorce is their fault. Even if your feelings are justified, if you're able to keep them to yourself, know that you are doing what is best for your children, even though it's harder for you.

It wasn't until the Supreme Court stepped in and ruled that the Title VII prohibitions against sexual discrimination apply to transgender employees that trans people gained any measure of security in their workplace.

That doesn't always help trans workers get past the front door, however.

One of the first obstacles trans employees face is on the job application

Many transgender people would prefer not to reveal their status to prospective employers until they've gone through the hiring process. That's the best way to avoid losing a job opportunity simply because the person making the hiring decision is prejudiced.

Como si tomar decisiones tan importantes como pasar por un divorcio no fueran lo suficientemente problemáticas por sí mismas, el contexto de las personas involucradas puede complicar todavía más la situación. No contar aun con toda la documentación que lo certifique como residente legal estadounidense seguramente le haga pensar dos veces cada decisión que para usted pueda suponer ponerse al descubierto.

Es así como pensar en solicitar la tenencia de sus hijos tras el divorcio podría parecerle en primera instancia una muy mala idea, especialmente si su excónyuge cuenta con la documentación en regla. Los miedos y las inseguridades entran en juego, pudiendo disuadirlo de tomar otro camino al que inicialmente usted eligió, haciéndole que se plantee cuál será la mejor decisión al fin de cuentas. Estas preocupaciones son razonables, pero es de suma importancia que usted se ponga al tanto de la existencia de derechos y leyes que lo resguardan, protegiendo tanto su bienestar como el de sus hijos.

¿Ser una persona indocumentada lo inhabilita para solicitar la tenencia de sus hijos?

La respuesta es no, el solo hecho de no tener papeles no es técnicamente un impedimento. La condición de inmigrante, tanto ilegal como legal , no es por lo general considerada un factor determinante (enlace en inglés) en sí mismo a la hora de dictaminar si la persona es apta para recibir la custodia de un niño. Sin embargo, como al tomar decisiones de custodia los jueces se enfocan en elegir lo que será en pos del mejor interés del niño, si un padre corre peligro de ser deportado, esto sí puede incidir.

Often, the courts in Illinois will set out a custody arrangement between spouses. This can be done willingly or may be enforced if necessary. However, there are occasions where one parent will repeatedly violate an arrangement that has been put in place.

Such violations can be extremely disruptive for both parent and child. However, it is important to note that this may be illegal and there could be legal options open to you if faced with these circumstances.

Defining parental time abuse

Life can be hectic at times, and it can be difficult to always keep an exact timing schedule. Often, parents who are trying to juggle employment and childcare will run late from time to time. This is to be expected and is not likely to be considered parental time abuse.

One of the biggest sources of conflict for many couples – and one that often leads to divorce — is money. The conflicts over money don't have to center around not having enough. Wealthy couples often fight about money, and the most serious conflicts are likely to be about spending habits.

Often this comes down to spouses having different attitudes towards money – generally, spending versus saving. Many people develop their attitudes at an early age, and they shape their relationship with money into adulthood.

Saving versus spending priorities aren't the only sources of financial conflict

When a person who lives by the “You can't take it with you” motto and believes that money is meant to be enjoyed is married to someone who believes in having firm savings goals, you have some serious conflicts. If the spouse who likes to buy things runs up credit card bills that the couple can't pay off, that can lead to additional fights.